Revenge is a tricky behavior. It’s one that is easy to take personally because it often hurts others. However, many times when kids are acting out revenge seeking, they can actually be trying to show you how bad they feel and don’t intend to hurt you intentionally (though that’s not always true). In this video, we’ll unpack this behavior and look at ways you can help to redirect them. We’ll also explore how to connect with the core issue to help resolve this so it doesn’t keep happening.

This is a behavior that will very likely need some limits set and, as I’ve mentioned previously, the most effective way to do that is by using the ACT model. Here is a link to a video on that:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RaY1_crnowM

Here is a link to the chart I’ve referenced throughout this series:

https://www.positivediscipline.com/sites/default/files/mistakengoalchart2020.pdf

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